In spite of a movement created to eliminate bullying from our children's schools, it seems it may be having the opposite effect. The problem may however be found in the name itself, Anti-Bullying.
"We become what we think about most of the time." Earl Nightingale
The Anti-Bullying movement focuses all of its energy on what it doesn't want, Bullying, and fights adamantly against this foe. The problem is bullying is not a person or group, it's a behavior, a symptom of a greater problem.
The next logical question would then be, why do people bully? The answer is simple, to meet needs that are not being met elsewhere. We all share the same human needs. Anthony Robbins teaches that these needs are:
- Certainty
- Variety
- Significance
- Love/Connection
- Growth
- Contribution
No matter your country of origin, age, religion, sexual preference/identity, we all share the same human needs, and if they are not being met, we may do whatever is necessary to meet them, including bullying. The problem with bullying as a strategy is as you may temporarily be meeting some of these needs, you're simultaneously violating others.
So the solution is twofold:
- We must offer students better, healthier, more positive ways to meet their needs.
- Focus on what we want, not on what we don't want.
"I was once asked why I don't partake in anti-war demonstrations. I said that I will never do that, but as soon as you have a pro-peace rally, I'll be there." Mother Teresa
School Heroes Unite is a great example of a bullying prevention school program that is breaking the old anti-bullying paradigm. School Heroes Unite is a Canadian pioneer and leader in the growing Pro-Heroism movement.
"Anti-Bulling programs only prove to further ostracize the bully, thus reinforcing the cycle. Therefore, any lasting solution needs to include the bully in a meaningful way, and offer students a better way to meet their needs. I believe that better way is through heroism and teamwork." Scott Dietrich
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